New Year No Goals

Shelby shared her personal journey of self-discovery and growth, discussing her transition from uncertainty to confidence and her realization of her natural abilities as a manifestor. She explored the challenges of aligning her skills and strengths with income generation, emphasizing the importance of initiating for service and helping others explore their identity and reconnect with their purpose. Throughout her journey, Shelby found support in friends, astrology, and human design, ultimately embracing new opportunities and encouraging others to trust the process.

Pod Episode Referenced:  Why you need to stop Initiating for money

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Transcript

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Shelby Wagner: Hello, and Happy New Year to those that celebrate

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Shelby Wagner: the order I get, the more I feel a little bit on the fence about new the New Year.

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Shelby Wagner: But either way, 2025 is here

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Shelby Wagner: for me in the Midwest, celebrating a new year in the midst of negative degree temperatures just feels really hard. I want to be the big sleeping bear cozied up somewhere underneath the ground. And

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Shelby Wagner: And yet we've created a world where we just keep on moving. So that is that is what I'm doing.

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Shelby Wagner: But I wanna say that I'm here alone today because I've just had this urge to talk about this space that I'm in, and hopefully Kara will forgive me, as I inform her after the fact. But I wanted a moment to share about this

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Shelby Wagner: the space of not yet that I've been in, and process a little bit with you as to what this journey looks like, or what a journey looks like when you're not quite sure yet what your next steps are, but you know you need to let go of some things in the present moment

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Shelby Wagner: I, in December felt very good about where the year was ending. I felt very calm, very relaxed.

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Shelby Wagner: accomplished in the ways that I wanted to accomplish, you know, grateful for the Identity Field Guide getting published and out in the world. I had some really lovely pop ups towards the end of the year where I got to sell the book and really connect with people. I got to connect with people who purchased the Field Guide and had really great things to say about it. And so just really, this beautiful space. And it was as if, like

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Shelby Wagner: the minute you know, midnight hit in 2025 came around. I was like, Ugh!

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Shelby Wagner: I feel like I'm really in this stuck, low place.

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Shelby Wagner: and I was telling a friend like, I don't know if this is the void, or if this is liminality.

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Shelby Wagner: But the more that the days went on here in January. We're mid January right now, I I said, you know, but I think it. I think I'm in a liminal space, because I see a lot of light on my path. These little glimmers, these.

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Shelby Wagner: you know, synchronistic moments that are showing me that I'm headed in the right direction, even though I feel like I'm standing in a field of fog.

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Shelby Wagner: And today I wanted just to share a little bit more about what that's like in the event that

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Shelby Wagner: you've been there. You are there, or maybe someday that happens to you to share a little bit of you know like, How do you navigate that? And how do you stay

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Shelby Wagner: grounded? And how do you not lose your mind and think all is lost.

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Shelby Wagner: because where I was just a couple weeks ago was sharing on Instagram some thoughts about New Year, no goals.

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Shelby Wagner: and I was like, I don't know about you, but I'm looking around and a little bit envious of people who've got. You know, these list of goals, and not just, you know, aspirations, but really specific, measurable things that they want to accomplish. And

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Shelby Wagner: and I felt just like nothing anytime. I tapped into my body to see like, what's there? What what do we want to do? It was just like this, this emptiness, like the floor in my like creative spirit had just like dropped open and in just like air, was whooshing out.

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Shelby Wagner: and

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Shelby Wagner: you know it felt necessary to name that it felt necessary to share some things on social media. I did a little piece with combining my words and visuals, you know, like assuring those who are out there in the collective like if you have no goals right now

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Shelby Wagner: that you've identified, know that you are still valuable and like, worthy as you are.

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Shelby Wagner: And what came to me is I was really

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Shelby Wagner: like just reflecting on that is that I'm not lost.

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Shelby Wagner: you know. I had gotten into a conversation.

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Shelby Wagner: and someone was saying like, Well.

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Shelby Wagner: you know, if you're looking to make a change this year, and you're looking to let go of this one job opportunity that you're in.

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Shelby Wagner: you know. But you don't have anything like

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Shelby Wagner: definitive that you're stepping into like, what? What is that?

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Shelby Wagner: And I felt like a little a little bit guilty.

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Shelby Wagner: But also I don't wanna say defensive. But I want I knew there was a moment of like.

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Shelby Wagner: wait a minute. I need to explain this better.

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Shelby Wagner: because apparently what I'm saying is, people making people think that I have no anchor.

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Shelby Wagner: and at times you're not totally sure what direction or what path you're on.

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Shelby Wagner: But I made it known, and very clear that I am very anchored, very grounded, and very rooted.

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Shelby Wagner: and who I am, and what my abilities are, and I just don't know yet

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Shelby Wagner: where I will be applying those in the New Year.

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Shelby Wagner: and I know that can feel a little squishy, a little gray for people, and I think

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Shelby Wagner: that, depending on who you are, that just might be part of your journey, and for others, it's part of your journey to have something specific. I think we all move through seasons of life

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Shelby Wagner: where specific things are possible to name, and seasons of life, where there is

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Shelby Wagner: that that emptiness, that not yet

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Shelby Wagner: what was different for this, though I have stood at thresholds before

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Shelby Wagner: this one just felt really challenging, I think, because I had a strong sense of there's work I need to let go of. I can feel it. I need to detach from it.

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Shelby Wagner: You know my

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Shelby Wagner: learning as a manifester. I have. I feel like I've cultivated that that sense of noticing when it is time to unplug

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Shelby Wagner: from something that I've helped initiate. And this work experience

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Shelby Wagner: with my husband, and the business that we own like I could tell like something is here. I need to disconnect in a certain way I need to bring back

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Shelby Wagner: to myself some of this creative energy that I've poured in, you know, the last 8 and a half years.

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Shelby Wagner: and to have such a strong feeling of knowing a disconnect and a disengagement needs to happen in one area

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Shelby Wagner: without seeing

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Shelby Wagner: where what the next step is, or you know, I keep seeing that passing of the baton, like, Okay, well, I'm letting go. But I also don't know what I'm reaching for next.

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Shelby Wagner: And I just kept thinking like, what is that.

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Shelby Wagner: and it brought up some old feelings of

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Shelby Wagner: my. What I assume people's perception of me is in that

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Shelby Wagner: I'm constantly changing, which to me is evolving. But for other people it looks like instability.

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Shelby Wagner: And.

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Shelby Wagner: you know, feeling just a little bit like, why don't I get the clear path? Why don't I get the clear, measurable goals. Why do I have to live in this space

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Shelby Wagner: of the not yet, and the day that I happen to share some of this in my Instagram stories.

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Shelby Wagner: A dear friend and and coach sent me this piece from an excerpt from everything is spiritual by Rob Bell.

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Shelby Wagner: and it instantly brought tears to my eyes, because in that moment

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Shelby Wagner: I felt like, I don't know if people get

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Shelby Wagner: what I'm moving through and how hard this is.

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Shelby Wagner: So it says.

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Shelby Wagner: we knew there was more. We knew there was another chapter, but to leave that previous chapter and move into the unknown

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Shelby Wagner: meant living in the in-between.

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Shelby Wagner: Another word for the in-between is liminal space

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Shelby Wagner: liminal is from the Latin word for threshold.

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Shelby Wagner: You're leaving one room, but you aren't yet in the next room. You're crossing the threshold

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Shelby Wagner: for a period of time.

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Shelby Wagner: You're in neither of those rooms.

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Shelby Wagner: Liminal space can be so brutal and so good.

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Shelby Wagner: We leave. We let go.

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Shelby Wagner: We see things we didn't see before.

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Shelby Wagner: We listen

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Shelby Wagner: like I said. When I read these words it brought tears to my eyes, because for a moment I felt seen.

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Shelby Wagner: For a moment I felt as though I don't think under people understand how hard this is.

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Shelby Wagner: and what a challenge it is not to just reach for something familiar.

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Shelby Wagner: You know, I'm human. And so

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Shelby Wagner: you know, I think of, okay, maybe I'm supposed to be looking places, not necessarily applying for jobs. But maybe I need to keep my eyes

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Shelby Wagner: open even wider, you know, scanning, looking for opportunities. Maybe there is a synchronicity that I'm missing.

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Shelby Wagner: and you know, writing in my journal over and over again, like these are the skills that I love. I love storytelling. I love synthesizing.

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Shelby Wagner: I love helping people find the gold in the words that they've created, whether that's in business or personally.

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Shelby Wagner: And in the same week someone reached out to me about a marketing

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Shelby Wagner: opportunity. Our community of business owners, women business owners.

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Shelby Wagner: can be featured throughout their this particular organization's audience

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Shelby Wagner: and this community of women in turn, not just of getting these opportunities to to write, and

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Shelby Wagner: you know be showcased, but to really support one another.

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Shelby Wagner: And I kind of had this like meltdown of like I wanna do this.

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Shelby Wagner: but I don't even know what I would be saying, what I would be asking people to come to me for.

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Shelby Wagner: And I thought, how is that possible? How have I done all of this work?

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Shelby Wagner: Healing work? How have I, you know, created this amazing book on my way to create another product, and I feel like I don't have

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Shelby Wagner: anything to give.

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Shelby Wagner: And thankfully I have a couple other manifesto friends, Kara being one of them, and another one where we're Morgan, who were all in a Whatsapp chat together, and I could I like immediately just

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Shelby Wagner: went there and said, like, I just need to say this. This is, you know, bothering me, that, like I can see on one hand all my talents and strengths, and on the other. I have no idea how to generate income

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Shelby Wagner: being my aligned, amazing self without getting sucked back into the structures that deplete me.

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Shelby Wagner: And when you live in a world where a lot of people either have defined pathways

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Shelby Wagner: or even just defined reservoir of energy to go after things.

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Shelby Wagner: It's challenging to explain to people like, I want to do these things. And also I want to hold space for

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Shelby Wagner: the fact that I am a seasonal being the fact that I need a little more rest than most people.

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Shelby Wagner: And so it isn't just about like going to apply for a job.

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Shelby Wagner: And then I have all of these skills and abilities that I want to use that don't show up in a lot of traditional job environments.

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Shelby Wagner: Something I wrote this week.

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Shelby Wagner: and there's a lot in between the what I just shared. And this statement here, and I'll move into that next.

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Shelby Wagner: But it felt really clear when I wrote it.

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Shelby Wagner: and it's like the clearest I've felt

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Shelby Wagner: in a long time, and it is this.

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Shelby Wagner: this is the year. I will not just be visible.

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Shelby Wagner: But the year I choose to step out front

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Shelby Wagner: a year that when others offer an opportunity to shine.

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Shelby Wagner: I step forward with confidence and a deep, knowing that this is mine to do.

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Shelby Wagner: It's time to retire. Old stories about where I belong and what I deserve.

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Shelby Wagner: I am at home anywhere within myself, and I deserve all that flows to and through me.

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Shelby Wagner: I belong, I deserve I'm at home.

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Shelby Wagner: What brought me to this place.

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Shelby Wagner: as I mentioned. There are a couple of synchronicities, right? So, friends, pinging me at different times to say different. You know.

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Shelby Wagner: workshops are still ringing it true in their hearts. A friend reaching out with that excerpt

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Shelby Wagner: a connection that I've been, you know, just nurturing, naturally saying, Hey, I think there's someone you should meet

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Shelby Wagner: again all of these lights on

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Shelby Wagner: on this journey of liminality, so not the void. This is not the void.

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Shelby Wagner: So what is it? And what what am I supposed to see? What am I missing?

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Shelby Wagner: And what I came upon is a manifester?

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Shelby Wagner: Podcast? A manifesto, community, and it was an episode where Holly Herberg was talking about.

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Shelby Wagner: Manifestors are specific type.

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Shelby Wagner: you know, needing to let go of initiating, using our creative energy and our creative urges.

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Shelby Wagner: Simply for money and taking on a mindset of initiating for service versus initiating for sales.

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Shelby Wagner: And this podcast I think I've list, the episode, particular episode. I've listened to maybe 5 times I mean it.

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Shelby Wagner: It gripped me like it caught hold of me, and I was like, I think there is something here for me.

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Shelby Wagner: and I tell you it reoriented me within a matter of hours.

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Shelby Wagner: after days of feeling so lost and so in this

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Shelby Wagner: the 1st powerful question was, What might it look like in my life if I was generating my financial income from my unnatural ability to initiate.

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Shelby Wagner: and to me that is the ultimate goal

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Shelby Wagner: to follow my intuition of what needs to be written, what needs to be said, what needs to be created

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Shelby Wagner: receive financial support, financial compensation, whatever that might look like, whatever form that might be.

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Shelby Wagner: and not just like as a writer or an artist, it can be that.

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Shelby Wagner: But whatever whatever way those particular talents, my natural gifts, and that natural rhythm that, surrendering to that rhythm

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Shelby Wagner: But then she dove into that concept of initiating for money.

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Shelby Wagner: or a sale versus initiating for service, and the example of being like

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Shelby Wagner: initiating for money or sales, saying, Here's all my things. Here's all the things I'm good at. Now I'm gonna go out there and find a job that'll pay me for them.

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Shelby Wagner: and I will do that for them, and they will pay me in return on a consistent basis.

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Shelby Wagner: And the challenge in that is that for my design type and my energy type, that

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Shelby Wagner: over time I will likely become resentful because that energy flows in a season. It doesn't flow in a perfect rhythm, a perfect bi-weekly paycheck rhythm.

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Shelby Wagner: It comes and it goes, and I will have to

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Shelby Wagner: on my own timing, I will use it, and sometimes I do use my initiating for other people. I, you know, believe, like helping my husband start a business was

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Shelby Wagner: using my ability to manifest things.

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Shelby Wagner: And he did that.

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Shelby Wagner: I think it's 1 of the like greatest initiations that I've I've been a part of.

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Shelby Wagner: But to do that for a company, and over time can be really draining.

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Shelby Wagner: And so she began to talk about like initiating for service.

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Shelby Wagner: and she said, What is your what is your greatest contribution?

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Shelby Wagner: That is what you lead with, and

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Shelby Wagner: something about that like flipped a switch in me. Because back to that moment of that organization saying, Hey, do you want to be featured? Do you want to be a part of this program? And I'm like I do. But I have no idea, like, how do I sell this list of abilities.

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Shelby Wagner: and it's like it's not the list of abilities. It's your greatest contribution.

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Shelby Wagner: And so once I started to think about that, I'm like, well, one. The identity. Field Guide is an amazing contribution.

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Shelby Wagner: 2. My ability to host events and experiences where people can engage in connection and deep reflection.

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Shelby Wagner: Like that is a contribution that I think we need now more than ever.

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Shelby Wagner: And so right away I was like, Oh, my gosh! I've been looking at this through the a different the wrong lens. Excuse me.

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Shelby Wagner: but it's this list that Holly called out, that really got me fired up, and not thinking about just selling my abilities.

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Shelby Wagner: but leading with like, what am I here to do?

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Shelby Wagner: And she said, initiating for service.

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Shelby Wagner: initiating because this is what we do to contribute to the collective

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Shelby Wagner: we initiate because it leaves a positive impact on the world

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Shelby Wagner: we initiate because it is the most empowered, aligned state to do so.

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Shelby Wagner: We initiate because it gives other people permission to be activated into growth.

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Shelby Wagner: We initiate because this is the highest possible service that a manifester can bring the world into themselves and to the people around them.

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Shelby Wagner: I can't even begin to imagine where this year will take me.

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Shelby Wagner: Thank you for listening and coming on this journey, and if you are in the liminal space.

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Shelby Wagner: just sending so much love

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